Every pregnancy of mine has been about the same. I have very few symptoms of pregnancy except extreme exhaustion through the first trimester and that’s about it. I’ve been very lucky! But this last pregnancy is trying to make up for the other ones. I’ve learned how to handle struggles through this first trimester and thought I would share.
Let me start by saying I tested very early and was able to get a positive test. We were able to share the exciting news with my parents while they were visiting for Christmas. But after they left complications started to happen. I had some spotting which to me seemed like lots of bleeding. I’ve come to figure out that really it wasn’t that much. However, it can be very concerning to have any bleeding in the beginning of pregnancy. I was told by my midwife that I needed to lay down immediately until it stopped.
After that one day it stopped for a whole week so I went back to doing normal things like housework and homeschool activities. Until it happened again. I laid down again and it didn’t stop as quickly but it did stop. We had an appointment to get proof of pregnancy and while we were in town we decided to go pay for an ultrasound. She was able to get a heartbeat but not a very good image of the baby. When speaking to my midwife and I shared with her some more details and she suggested I go to the emergency room. She believed I was having signs of a miscarriage.
After our evening in the ER we knew that baby was good and that I just had some things to work out this pregnancy. I had to follow up with an OB where I was told that I needed to be on bedrest until I had 7 whole days with no spotting at all! Which was not easy to do with 3 kids and a husband that works 14 hours a day. But we managed to make things work with these simple tips!
Use a grocery store that has a pick up option. This saved us! I was able to shop online and set everything up for quick and easy meals for the week. Then Cowboy just had to drive to town and park and they brought out the groceries and loaded them up.
Buy easy to grab healthy foods for the kids to grab. We try to eat pretty healthy but during this time I knew cooking wasn’t going to be an option. So buying apples, bananas, carrots and other options that the kids or myself could just grab and eat was helpful.
Buy easy to prepare meals. Spaghetti, tacos, even boxed meals. Anything that can be prepared easily once your spouse gets home or something that kids can help cook while you are near by with your feet up. Focus on getting your family fed even if normally you wouldn’t feed them boxed meals. This is survival mode.
Use paper products. This is something that I wish we would have done. We kept forgetting to buy them so we had plenty of dishes that still had to be washed. Lucky for me I have children that were able to help.
Encourage your children tohelp. My children are not always willing helpers. Most of the time they complain about doing much of anything around the house. During this time we talked openly to our kids about the importance of helping. They really stepped up their game and helped.
Remember this is only temporary. Even if it doesn’t end in just over a month like it did for me bedrest is temporary. Eventually that baby has to come out and then you can start working towards getting back on track. So be patient. Both while you are on bedrest and afterwards. Even though I was only down for about 6 weeks I’m still not back to myself before. I think that mostly because I’m pregnant and my body is working hard growing a baby. But I’m working on it. And the weather is getting warmer which is awesome because that means the kids and I can start walking to help me feel stronger.
I hope that if you or someone you love is dealing with the struggles of a tough pregnancy that is requiring bedrest that these few tips can help. It might not be much but I didn’t know where to begin when it happened to me.