There’s a lot of women out there right now that are screaming loudly for more women’s rights. They make women think that pursuing a career outside the home is the most important place a woman can be. In all their screaming they completely disrespect the life that women like myself choose to live! I choose to be living a life that is putting the people I hold most dear to me above everything else. In doing this I haven’t lost myself, I’m not unhappy and I surely wouldn’t trade it for any career!
I feel like when writing about my life I should start it off with saying, “Hi my name is Kari and I’ve been a stay at home mom for 9 years.” And you all should respond, “Hi Kari.” You know like the AA meetings you see in movies? Like the life I’m choosing with live is something that I’m suffering from and need to seek out recovery for. The thing is that I don’t truly feel that way in my heart and I absolutely love my life.
I love that my husband knows that I’m always there for him. That he can ask my to get up at 3 o’clock in the morning with him so he can have a good breakfast to start his work day. I love that he knows that he can call me and say I need you to run to the store for me. I love that when he’s struggling with any aspect of his life that he can come to me and bare his deepest darkest secrets and I will be there to help him work through it.
I love that I know that my husband is always there for me. I love that I can ask to head out to a women’s event on a Saturday morning and he happilysends me on my way no matter how tired he is from his week of work. I love that on Sunday morning we cook breakfast together at church and he loves being in the kitchen with me. And on his morning off he wakes up and cooks me breakfast because it’s his day off. I love that I can call him and ask him to run to the store before he comes home because I just couldn’t make it there. What I love most is that I can completely break down emotionally and bare my soul to him and he is always there to lift me back up and encourage me to keep going.
This is the life that we have been able to create by me choosing to stay home. By choosing to put my husband’s needs above my need for a career. And you know the funny thing? I don’t even want a career! The successes I have accomplished in this life could never compare to the success I could have in a career. And it only gets better!
It’s better because in this life I get to be here for my children. Every success and every failure I get to experiencewith my children. Learning to read, their first loose tooth, taking their first steps, writing their name for the first time are all things I don’t miss out on because I’m home with my children every single day. I get to see their eyes light up when they discover something new. I get to hug them when they are having a hard day. I get to take them for ice cream in the middle of the day just because. I get to teach them how family is the most important part of life. That having a brother and sister is such a blessing if they choose to nurture the relationships.
In a world that is full of hate I get to have a life full of blessings. In a world that talks down to women who choose family above all else, I stand firm in my belief that my life is the best life. In a world that thinks being married and having children isn’t the best part of life, I get to look at my life and know that they are wrong. In a world that seems so miserable and filled with unhappiness, I get to focus on what matters to me and live a life that I love and wouldn’t trade for anything!